Finding your way…

Something that I am hearing a lot is that very few people are able to find their way around town… just give them a handy dandy address, and their GPS will find their way there. Unfortunately, there are some issues lately from people who use GPS as their only way of finding their way around.

The first being misdirected on location. This is where there is a little bit of error on the GPS system’s account, and it tells you to turn when you sould have waited another 30 or 40 feet. You turn and end up some place completely different. Most newer GPS systems figure this out today when you do end up somewhere different, but still, it may take a little bit before it recognizes you are that far off the path you were supposed to take.

Another is misdirection because of keying errors. This is where the person typing in an address types in the wrong thing – usually missing a directional indicator like North, South, East, or West. In this situation, the person who was meeting me could have been on time but do to keying in the wrong address (West street name instead of East street name), the GPS took the person to a completely wrong place and they were an hour late for the meeting. When you key addresses in, make sure you have the right location because if you provide the wrong location, it will take you to the wrong location.

Yet another is not being able to follow complex highway intersections. The GPS is great at simple directions, but what about two major highways converging with two exits on the different ramps to the other highways? Then a GPS won’t necessarily give you understandable directions to get you where you want to go. This also happened recently to someone who stopped at my house – when they left, they used their GPS to get them home. First, the ended up going the wrong way on one highway, then turning around, they then missed the exit to the other highway because the GPS told them to “stay left” and that took them out of the exit to the other highway. Talk about frustrating. The person who did this has a good sense of humor but didn’t like the teasing I did when they did this.

So, some common sense on finding your way should be in order before you use a GPS so you can see if the directions it is giving you makes any sense. They are great tools, but there are many things that can go wrong. I have listed three possibilities that happened recently to various people I know. Stop and think about what the GPS is doing and don’t blindly follow its directions.

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Love

There are many different kinds of love – romantic love, family love, love for your daughter or son, love for pets, etc. The one thing about love that amazes me as people is how hard it gets to believe that another person loves another.  The second thing that amazes me is how quickly some people fall in love and fall out of love. And, then there are those people who aren’t really in love, but go about their way as if they are. Or, people who think that mad and wild passionate sex is love, and there isn’t anything more to love. This has made me ponder about love…

I know from personal experience that love is a really wonderful thing but all of us feel it in different ways. Some of this, I assume, is because of our experiences we have dealing with love. As we meet and socialize with people, we commonly use our parents for references on what love is or was. As we get older, and have more experience, we base it on our experiences with others. But, even though we say to others that we love them, it often is said much more freely than we really mean it.  At the same time, the receiver frequently doesn’t believe that they are loved or can’t understand much of why  the sender does … no matter how much time has passed or how well demonstrated. If something happens to break that trust or even bend it, we often assume the other doesn’t love us any more.

Why?

Why are we like this? I really don’t know. It is just an observation on life. I can say that if you love someone – a girlfriend, a wife, your children – love them like there is no tomorrow. And, if you are the receiver, no matter how much it doesn’t make sense, if someone is there for you and loves you, recognize that they do without question and love them back. Even if you don’t care about the other person, show some form of happiness back and don’t try to mislead them. If it is a parent, you probably won’t understand their love until you have your own children. And, no matter how bad things get as a child, your parents will always love you.

 

Best Layed Plans

This past week, I had a little excitement from a close friend. He went to visit his girlfriend after many grueling months away being deployed in the Middle East. The thing is that after returning home, he has lived with his parents and they expect that they set the rules. This includes knowing where and who he visits, why, and everything about the daily grind for him. Being an adult who is almost 21, and able to be responsible, you can see the problems that this causes for both him and his parents. In order to spend time with his girlfriend, he lied to his parents about the day and said he would be with another friend about an hour away.

For this trip, he met halfway with his girlfriend and they had a really wonderfully long day. Everything was going well, and he was about an hour and a half from home and disaster struck: He was caught in a three rig and van accident. There were hazmat concerns, so the roads were shut down. He was on a seven mile stretch that was shut down. After 15 minutes of waiting, I was called and asked what he should do. Does he need to come clean to his parents and let them know he was off on this trip? What are they going to do when he got home – he was supposed to be home in less than half an hour. A few minutes can be explained. An hour and a half couldn’t.Worse yet, he had never been involved in an acident like this and was panicked on what he should do. I talked and texted for a while to keep him calm.

Making a long story short, it wasn’t until 11:30 PM that the State police told them how to back away from the accident and then eventually flipped them to the other side of the road. In the several hours of waiting, his mother called and wanted to know when to expect him home. He indicated that he was fine and not to wait. He was safe and would be home as quickly as he could. He was traveling the wrong way and the GPS was telling him to turn around and go the other way. Again, he called and asked for directions on how to get from point A going the wrong way, to getting to point B going the right way on the highway where the GPS gave the right directions.I helped there and gave some directions of the best way to get that done. My biggest worry at this point was worry about what his parents would do would distract him and he would be in another accident.

After he was rerouted and back on the highway, he continued home without incident except for waiting for a train to pass by on some tracks. While waiting for the train, his mother texted she called the police about him and that he was in big trouble. He was home about five minutes later. Both his parents were up, and neither talked to him about what had happened. They gave him the look of disappointment and went to bed.

I have to wonder about situations like this, and why they happen. Even though they love each other dearly, there isn’t any trust between them. As he gets older, the ability to talk about trust gets further and further away. I have noticed that his parents still dictate his day and what he does – they don’t let him be him and make his own decisions. On his side, he doesn’t show much initiative to act like an adult — there are signs, but he is afraid to make them because of retribution from his parents. When he is away from them, there aren’t any problems and everything goes well.

What do you think should happen? Do you think there is a better way to handle this?